You can't go sailing if you don't untie the boat. You've seen the comical routine many times where one foot is on the boat, one on the dock, the boat floats out, and the would-be sailor splashes into the water. All-in or all-out, halfway doesn't work.
I'm going to approach this from the standpoint of people-pleasing. It is a nasty habit so many of us practice. It is a very common symptom of addiction, particularly codependency. We don't want to rock the boat, we want to keep everyone happy, we want everyone to like us all the time, i.e., stay "safely on shore." My son and his fiancee are planning an October wedding. Questions abound regarding who to invite and how. Concerns about irritating people arise. It is an excellent time for the reminders of a) the bride and groom must do what pleases them and not worry about any one else; and b) they have no control over how folks react to their choices. They need to just go for it--embark into the strange new world of wedding planning--without the added burden of trying to please everyone all the time.
Standing up for oneself, doing what it takes to fulfill one's needs and desires, fully going for it, may be the boldest thing anyone ever does.
While it is not a strange place, Barney and I are today embarking for Wichita and returning home. Thanks, Colorado, for an excellent vacation! We will be back!
Leta
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