Monday, January 28, 2013


I'm enjoying the wonderful book by Michael A. Singer titled The Untethered Soul. The theme of this book is living life with an open heart, choosing to be unconditionally happy, and allowing life to be life and flow right on through us energetically without hanging onto irritations or celebrations--loving every moment, no matter what.
That's a tall order, to be sure. But as Mr. Singer says, "What's there to not be happy about?" Keeping one's vow of unconditional happiness requires us to give up our melodramas and that part of us that believes there is some reason to be unhappy. So many of the situations or people that we get wound up about (and often let ruin our day) are truly trivial in the grand scheme of things. Is it worth it to upset our lovely internal energy flow (which moves beautifully unless we block it or close it) over such trivial things? Really??!!?!
Breathe, relax and release. It's a practice, and you, too, can do it!

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

One of Those Days

Yesterday was "one of those days." For me, that means that I would prefer to be the only person on the planet, the rest of humanity can just get off the globe and leave me alone. It's an odd combination of mild crankiness and need for self-nurturing. I'm best not interacting with anyone on such days--it's rarely productive. So I mostly stayed in the woman cave, slept, ate moderately, and relaxed. Because I recognized this in myself, experienced it, and let it pass, today I'm fine and back to my "usual happy self."
These are some powerful words: This, too, shall pass. That's if we let it pass.
Is there anything you could let pass, to your great benefit?

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Control, or not

I hit a "control bottom" in December. An attempt to exert influence, which I realized afterwards, didn't go well. Not the first time, alas. But hopefully one of the last. It was a good learning experience, in that I have no desire to control much of anything now. Nor do I have the ability. My "illusion of control" has been shattered, and for that, I am most grateful.
Now I get to enjoy the freedom, though sometimes a bit scary, of taking life, other people, and circumstances as they come. Things happen, I experience them, and let them go. It's a free way to live that I'm just starting to learn. I've been a controlling person for so long, this is a huge change. But being a controller is the direct opposite of living with an open heart, and I am committed to keeping my heart open and love flowing. I'm excited for this ongoing adventure.

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Joy Enemy #1

     I've discovered through years of introspection that one of my key talents in life is helping people to see other options.
     "We've always done it this way!" is Joy Enemy #1. Let's take a look at this on a variety of scales. At the international level--we've always solved conflicts via war. This is becoming increasingly unacceptable as humans are waking to the idea that there are other options.
     At the national level, there is a huge expectation for the government to fix it, whatever "it" is. Truly this is a fairly recent phenomenon, less than 100 years old. Waiting for the government to fix something is futile. Consider other options, like employing the awesome creativity and resourcefulness of the American people.
     At the personal level, we tend to get so enmeshed in our habitual ways of doing things, that we don't even take time to consider other options. Here's one to blow most parents' minds: if your child is older than 10, they can do their own laundry. This supports their resourcefulness, and helps them understand consequences (such as the social embarrassment of stinky clothes). And it frees parents to do something more fun than laundry.
     There are many commonly-held beliefs that are bullshit, such as:
     1) Taking good care of oneself is selfish.
     2) A parent's job is to keep the child happy.
     3) A parent can't allow a child to fail--it will make the parent look bad.
     4) Change is to be resisted.
Well, if these are bullshit, what are the other options?  I'll let you ponder those a bit.
With an open mind,