Whew! What a relief! Growing up with a controlling, demanding mother (who had her own issues, I now see), I learned perfectionism "at the feet of the master." I was certainly far from perfect, but the pressure was always there. It has been a lifetime practice to release perfectionism and be comfortable with simply being good.
Perfectionism is a common character defect among addicts. "All or nothing" thinking leads to the idea that if I can't do X perfectly, I won't even try. Attempting "perfect" recovery often leads to addicts abandoning the effort in frustration.
Perfectionism leads to judging oneself by unreasonable standards. This is often projected onto others in criticism, fault-finding and an "us vs. them" attitude. Perfectionism does not make for good and comfortable relationships with others.
Let us be kind in all we do. That is good enough.
Leta
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