May 30--It's a Process

Of all things we mortals are called upon to do, the most difficult is forgiveness; in order to truly do it, you will probably have to behave as if you already have forgiven for quite a while before you have actually done so. 
--Marion Zimmer Bradley

    "Act as if..." This is a fundamental practice within the 12-Step program. Not sure about a Higher Power? Act as if one exists and does exactly what you want. Not sure if you can forgive? Act as if you have "kicked those resentments to the curb" and be free. 

    Another technique to get the forgiveness ball rolling is to pray for the perpetrator, that he/she has all the good you desire in life. Note that all these options are to change you, not the offender. My experience with this effort has been that a) you don't have to mean a word of this prayer, and b) after doing it for a few days, you get tired of it and the resentment and let it all go. Mission accomplished. 

    Our best bet... don't take anything personally!

        Leta

Be like a sunflower--follow the light!