As synchronicity would have it, I just did the Wholehearted Inventory on Brene Brown's website. The results give a very clear indication of what harmony and disharmony with oneself are:
Harmony vs. Disharmony:Authenticity vs. concern for what others thinkSelf-compassion vs. perfectionismResilient spirit vs. numbing and powerlessnessGratitude and joy vs. scarcity and fearCreativity vs. comparisonPlay and rest vs. exhaustion and productivity as self-worthCalm and still vs. anxiety as a lifestyleMeaningful work vs. self-doubt and "supposed to"Laughter, song, dance vs. being cool and in controlClear and committed values vs. undefined values
As one who has done a lot of work in 60+ years on being in harmony with myself, I can say that it is a lot more fun and rewarding to hang out on the Harmony side. I am rarely afraid, to refer to Hesse's quote.
Looking at the Disharmony side, I would have to say that's where my mother lived. She set a strong example of self-disharmony for me, and I've worked hard to move to the Harmony side of life. This is one of those instances where a bad example can be a good thing. Finding harmony within myself has generated great compassion for my mother and her struggles.
Hanging on the Harmony side,