April 27--Think Higher

Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think.  --Benjamin Disraeli

    I was with a group of folks last night whom I have known for many years. They are dear friends with great variety in age, careers, health challenges, etc. I posed the questions, "Is your life easy? If so, why? If not, what might make it easier?" 

    Each one answered that yes, life is easy. A recurring reason offered for that ease is an attitude of gratitude, with several even writing a daily gratitude list. Philosophers throughout the ages have expounded on the fact that the great thoughts of gratitude do nurture us, and it is those very thoughts that enable us to create even more to appreciate. 

    I feel safe in saying that we have all experienced our thoughts taking us to low, dark places. Whether we practice it or not, we know that we have control over our thoughts. It costs nothing and feels a whole lot better to stick with the great thoughts. As Dr. Seuss wrote...

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    Is your life easy? Have some fun pondering those questions above.

        Leta

April 26--A Little of This, A Little of That

The art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. 
--Henry Havelock Ellis

    Holding on seems fairly easy. It seems we are oriented toward that. We see grown adults still living with parents. There is a TV show about obsessive hoarding. We cling to beliefs and patterns of living that no longer serve us. Holding on appears to maintain the status quo, and avoid the dreaded change. I believe, however, that holding on and attempts at controlling ultimately lead one backward, as the rest of the world moves forward. The January 6 Capitol riot was all about holding on, and we witnessed what a horrifying mess that made. 

    Letting go, on the other hand, takes conscious effort and, often, courage. I frequently consider the "fine mingling" in my interactions with my adult sons. I want to support and love them, but I don't want to meddle in their lives. It's a fine line. I encourage them to tell me when I need to hold on less and let go more. Letting go gets forced on us sometimes, as loved ones transition and relationships end. Change inevitably follows letting go--that's the whole point, really. Let go, change, grow. 

    Leta

April 25--Teachable

Experience teaches only the teachable.  --Aldous Huxley

    One would think spending 18 years in school, completing high school, college and grad school, would make one teachable. I guess I was, to a certain extent. 

    Relative to the school of life, however, it took a 12-Step program to give me the understanding of being teachable. I was so miserable that I was willing to take suggestions and learn from those who were living in recovery. It's a mighty powerful thing to admit we don't know the answer, to be willing to ask for help and to use that help to grow.

    The Twelve Promises of Alcoholics Anonymous describe what we all can experience if we are teachable:

1. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.
2. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.
3. We will comprehend the word serenity.
4. We will know peace.
5. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.
6. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.
7. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows.
8. Self-seeking will slip away.
9. Our whole attitude and outlook on life will change.
10. Fear of people and economic insecurity will leave us.
11. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.
12. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.

    Learning every day,

        Leta

April 24--Growing = Living

If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we aren't really living. 
--Gail Sheehy

    I don't think there is much I can add to that simple yet full-on-true quote. I would offer that sometimes those closest to us don't appreciate the changes and growth and will resist, but that's part of the process. It is relatively easy to see old, stuck, repetitive behaviors in others. I pray that I can see them in myself and surrender to change and growth. It has worked quite well for me so far!

    Lovin' life,

        Leta

April 23--New Adventures

Live out your imagination, not your history.  --Arthur Bryan

    If we hang mentally in the past, we continue to recreate it. That may be fine if we have a good history, but why not use the imagination to create something even better? And if it's not a good history, it is time to forgive, let go and look ahead. We can always envision a greater good, and that is the only way to make it happen.

    As John Lennon told us, "Imagine..."

        Leta

April 22--The Melancholy of Change

All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.  --Anatole France

    With April's theme of growth, I note that change and growth go hand-in-hand, both driving forces. Growth results in change, and change results in growth. They take us from one life to the next. We can resist, or simply feel the melancholy and move on to new adventures. 

    I relate strongly to the melancholy feelings around change. We've certainly felt it as we've moved through the changes introduced by the pandemic. Freedom to go and do as we choose has been greatly limited. I recall early in my 12-Step journey that my longed-for recovery brought me the sadness of leaving behind my "best friend," my substance of choice. I feel melancholy when a much-anticipated trip is completed and it's back to "normal life." Leaving a job may mean leaving work and folks one has enjoyed for a long time. How about becoming an empty-nester? There's a much longed-for change (children becoming successful, self-supporting adults) that brings on the melancholy of missing them and the joys of their upbringing. When I consider the prospect of moving from our current home of 36 years, the melancholy is instant. We are not planning such a move at the moment, but it will likely happen someday as we enter another phase of life. 

    Feeling the melancholy of change is a part of being human. Allowing those feelings to move through us actually makes dying to the old life easier.

    Growing and changing,

        Leta

April 21--I'm Back!

To look back is to relax one's vigil.  --Bette Davis

    We are now operating with the quotes from the "Daily Joy" book, and April's theme is growth.

    Looking back over my three-week break, I can easily relax now. Tax season is over for me, despite the extension. We buckled down and got most of the work done by April 15. It was intense. I'm super-glad it is over. Transitioning from more-than-full-time work to not working is a piece of cake. 😉😉

    The end of tax season flowed right into a long weekend in Colorado to surprise our older son for his birthday. We had the great joy of staying with him and his partner in their brand new home. We had evenings with our other son who works on weekends. It was quite a treat to have the space for all five of us to gather around the dinner table and share meals. The dogs had room to romp and laze. The birthday boy and I played golf on Sunday. I cannot think of anything higher on my "joy" list than golfing with my sons. We went on a lovely trek along a northern Colorado reservoir with the magnificent snow-capped Rocky Mountains in the background. 

    Life is good, life is relaxed, I am grateful!

        Leta

Douglas Reservoir