Friday, December 30, 2016

2016 was a helluva year!

     2016 was a great year for me. I realize there are many out there who think the year sucked, and I hold you in love and sincerely hope 2017 is a much better year for you.
     I went through my daily Win List and came up with these highlights:

  • Completed first season of tax prep, very enlightening, learned a lot
  • Dennis & I celebrated our 30-year anniversary with a lovely trip exploring Colorado
  • Completed book study classes on Big Magic and Slow Medicine
  • Led two retreats at Timber Creek (yoga, Slow Medicine)
  • My baby rocker was restored and refinished
  • Went to Ana Forrest workshops in Houston
  • My hip healed via year-long Slow Medicine journey (see earlier blog post)
  • Completed a Whole 30 program, with weight loss inspiring new clothing purchases (dropped the "X" from my size!)
  • Attended Symphony in the Flint Hills
  • Enjoyed a fabulous trip to Scotland, Northern Ireland and Ireland with my excellent travel partner, Lanie
  • Attended a Royals game with galpals
  • Enjoyed Derek at home for a friend's wedding in August
  • Treated Derek, Eliot and Alissa to a Cubs/Rockies game in Denver, adding another stadium to my "see all the MLB ball parks" life goal (& Cubs won!)
  • Survived a physical, which confirmed my excellent health
  • Spent a great long weekend in Chicago with my dear friend Cricket, including a Cubs game at Wrigley Field
  • Dennis' Eagle job ended after nearly 26 years--yes, this is a good thing
  • I dug deeply into the MELT Method, working with friends to explore the techniques and heal connective tissue; this is another healing modality I plan to explore much more
  • Golfed w sons in FOCO in October, and discovered a great place for us to stay when visiting, The Solarium
  • Spent a lovely Thanksgiving holiday with Dennis' family
  • Made a huge life change and purchased an artificial Christmas tree (jury is still out)
  • Enjoyed a trip with galpals to Kansas City for a concert, Christmas lights on the Plaza & KCCSL
  • Enjoyed a super family Christmas in FOCO, made personalized stockings for Alissa & Paisley
  • Swam 126 miles (over 100 miles for the 19th year in a row)
  • And the most stellar event of 2016... THE CUBS WON THE WORLD SERIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When we focus on the good, the good expands. I'm excited for 2017!
      Happy New Year!
            Leta

Monday, December 19, 2016

Helping an Ugly Situation

We may find ourselves sometimes seeing a loved one in a situation that appears to be not in their best interests. Interfering is generally not the best plan, as everyone is entitled to free-will choice, and no one likes his or her free will messed with. So I offer these words from Abraham-Hicks:
You will know when you are of value to anyone when you are able to think about the person and feel good at the same time. When you love others without worry, you are an advantage to them. When you enjoy them, you help them. When you expect them to succeed, you help them. In other words, when you see them as your own Inner Being sees them, then and only then is your association with them to their advantage.  
Your thoughts can add goodwill or negativity to the situation. Choose wisely!
          Leta



Tuesday, December 13, 2016

My Slow Medicine Journey

Slow Medicine. This is the title of a book by Dr. Michael Finkelstein. I highly recommend it as a guided in-depth exploration of one’s health, using the author’s 77 Questions for Skillful Living. Dr. Finkelstein, via his personal experience, discusses how Western medicine is great for acute injuries and minor illnesses, such as broken bones and sinus infections, but it has failed us in coping with chronic illnesses and long-term health issues, especially those related to lifestyle. He takes a “whole person” view of care and treatment, which is nearly impossible to find in today’s Western doctor population.

Please understand that I am not placing all the blame for our generally sad state of health on doctors. Much of it falls on lack of responsibility on the part of the patients as well. The general mentality is that folks really don’t want to change to get better, they want the doctor to fix it. It’s a lose-lose situation.

One of the maddening things I’ve noticed over my lifetime is that for many folks, if their doctor told them to jump off a cliff, they’d go do just that, no questions asked. The doctor knows best, and they close themselves off to other possibilities. Here’s a well-ignored fact: no doctor has ever healed anyone--we all, ultimately, heal ourselves. Our amazing bodies do the healing.

So why not simply work with our bodies, minds and spirits to heal ourselves? It takes too long. That’s “woowoo.” It’s not covered by insurance. I don’t want to change my diet or exercise or whatever. If I’m taking responsibility, I have no one to blame but myself. I can’t find anyone to support my efforts. On and on it goes.

Here’s a personal story of slow medicine. For several years I had an ache in my left hip, bearable, but fairly constant. I had unfortunately settled into the mentality of “I’m getting older, I’m gonna hurt somewhere.” Occasionally I would take an over-the-counter pain reliever. I maintained my usual activities of swimming, yoga, golf and walking, though the ache limited my walking to a mile at a time. I did not go to the doctor about it, because I knew he would look at my date of birth and say “arthritis.” (I’ve witnessed this too many times in my older-adult yoga student population.) I am extremely opposed to a doctor labeling me with a condition.

At the beginning of 2016, I decided that I’d had enough of the aching and embarked on finding a way to get rid of it. I started with my chiropractor, where I learned my sacrum was out of alignment, and we’ve cared for that with regular adjustments. Those started out weekly, and now I see her every 2-3 weeks. That was a beginning in taking care of the structural alignment problem. I also continued my regular monthly massage, focusing on the muscles around the hip.

There was a lot of following my intuition in this journey, as well as noting guidance offered to me along the way by others. One of my yoga students told me about Whole 30 (whole30.com), a diet-exploration plan that intrigued me. When I learned in May that another super-health-conscious friend had done the Whole 30 program, I was inspired to do it. It gave me valuable insight into how foods affect my body, with the added bonus that I had 25 fewer pounds for my hip to carry around. This same Whole 30 friend also told me about the Melt Method, a body movement system that works with the fascia, the connective tissue throughout our bodies. In September I began a daily regimen of using the Melt techniques, easy to do in about 20 minutes a day. That has been an incredibly important piece of the healing puzzle, and I can say that I rarely have hip pain anymore. I am up to walking two miles easily again.

However, after years of compensating for the hip pain, the muscles surrounding it, especially in my thigh, are still quite tight. Enter my amazing massage therapist again. I asked her to work on my IT band (muscle running along the outside of the thigh), and she applied kinesiology tape to that. It’s the stuff you see on the shoulders of basketball players. Who knew?!?! It has had a huge effect on my leg mobility, stiffness after sitting a while, and muscle tightness. I also learned that I can buy the tape online, and there are videos showing how to apply it to many parts of the body. Another piece of the healing puzzle falls into place. Holy cow, self-care, I love it.

This has been a year-long journey so far. I knew it would not be a quick fix. I’ve learned a lot of valuable information about myself along the way. I’ve made changes in what I eat. I’ve worked hard at maintaining an attitude of health as opposed to illness. No drugs or M.D.s were used in the process. Best of all, my hip rarely hurts anymore, and I’m convinced that if I continue using the techniques I’ve learned, that my muscles will relax. My body knows what to do if I support its innate healing capabilities. Yours does, too.
Knowing our vibrant health,
Leta

Monday, November 28, 2016

Let's Hope This is the Bottom

     As I have moved through the grieving process relative to the election, I have placed my focus on the statement, "Love is the only solution." When I'm tempted to drift off into negativity, I just keep repeating, "love, love, love, love." I firmly believe that those of us who are conscious enough to know this as truth have a responsibility to promote love in the world. Those who hate are unconscious.
     I had an exceedingly comforting realization yesterday. I am a recovering addict. As such, I have personally hit, and witnessed many others hit, the "bottom." The bottom is a hellish place. In fact, it is so awful that, finally, the addict decides that changing is now a better option than to continue the addictive behavior. While it's a miserable place to be, it's also a place of hope, a place of choosing to find a better way to live.
     I hope that collectively we (U.S.) have hit bottom. That the racist and religion-inspired hatred (yes, that's an addiction) is having its last hurrah. Yes, it's ugly, but I believe that's not how we want to be as humans, and we'll find a better way. In my own recovery, hitting bottom was one of the best things that ever happened to me. Let's hope that's the case for our country.
     Love, love, love, love,
            Leta

Tuesday, October 11, 2016

What a Roller Coaster Ride is this October!

     I usually LOVE October. It's birthday month for both my husband and me. The weather is generally awesome. Having grown up in the heavily-forested mountains of Pennsylvania, I am still in love with fall colors. And then there's the baseball playoffs. With the Cubs in the playoffs this year, I am in baseball nirvana. I'd usually not ever want to rush through my most beloved month.
     However, this year, October can't be over quickly enough, getting us to and past Election Day. I am nauseous sick of all of it, both on a state and national level. I am embarrassed as an American that a vile person such as Donald Trump could get a major-party nomination. President Obama is the highest-quality human being to hold that office in decades, and I'm sick of hearing him being bashed. And I didn't even have the stomach to watch the debates!
     I've decided for my sanity to remove myself from any more political readings, news, etc. and to concentrate on enjoying the rest of this month. That includes a retreat weekend that will truly get me "away from it all," hallelujah.
     GO, CUBBIES!
          Leta

Sunday, October 2, 2016

I Didn't Get Shot

     Does fear rule your life? This is a very powerful question to ponder. I believe we are way more influenced by fear in our daily living than we realize. As Albert Einstein stated, "The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe."
     I was golfing with a group of women I did not know well, and in casual conversation, I mentioned that I was going to Chicago for a long weekend vacation (including Cubs game at Wrigley). The first thing one of the women said was, "I hope you don't get shot." I was flabbergasted. If that's not living from fear, I don't know what is.
     I totally believe that the Universe is as friendly as we make it. Living in fear attracts scary things. Living in friendliness attracts friends and good experiences. I've traveled all over the world and had outstanding experiences everywhere. To have refused these adventures out of fear would have stripped my life of its extraordinary richness.
     Please don't think your fears don't matter. They matter to you, obviously, but they also matter in the bigger picture. It's folks living from fear that increase hate, distrust, and violence in our world, the "us vs. them" mentality. We go a long way toward helping our world by making the decision for "friendly."
     Your friend,
           Leta
 

Sunday, September 25, 2016

Living in Your Head or Your Heart?

     I highly recommend Dying to Be Me, a book by Anita Moorjani. She describes her near-death experience after dying (so it appeared to her family and doctors) from cancer and then returning to life, completely healed. She talks at length about what she learned from this happening. Here is a quote from page 147 of the book:
     When we live completely from the mind over a period of time, we lose touch with the infinite self, and then we begin to feel lost. This happens when we're in doing mode all the time, rather than being. The latter means living from the soul and is a state of allowing. It means letting ourselves be who and what we are without judgment. Being doesn't mean that we don't do anything. It's just that our actions stem from following our emotions and feelings while staying present in the moment. Doing, on the other hand, is future focused, with the mind creating a series of tasks that take us from here to there in order to achieve a particular outcome, regardless of our current emotional state.
     I have discovered that to determine whether my actions stem from "doing" or "being," I only need to look at the emotion behind my everyday decisions. Is it fear, or is it passion? If everything I do each day is driven by passion and a zest for living, then I'm "being," but if my actions are a result of fear, then I'm in "doing" mode.
     When we feel off track, we think there's something wrong with us--something we have to do or get in order to right ourselves--so we go searching outside for answers. We look to others in the hope that they'll fix us. We may feel better a a little while, but it's usually short-lived, and we eventually end up feeling worse. However, when we really start to tune in to who life intended us to be--and we're attuned to the emotions that motivate us--we connect with the soul of our magnificence. We feel clarity when we allow this connection and take our power back, and our lives start to work. 
           Being joyful,
               Leta